There’s a root cause of your porn addiction.
And it’s the same cause that makes you unable to quit pornography.
So, what is it?
And more specifically, anxiety around women.
The vast majority of men who struggle with porn have felt anxious around women they’re attracted to. This usually shows up in adolescence, but it never goes away for most porn addicts.
If you don’t address your anxiety about speaking and engaging with attractive women, it’s going to follow you into your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond. You’ll never live it down.
Statistically, you’ve likely seen over 500 women since you were 17 that you wanted to talk to but didn’t. Unfortunately, your brain is keeping track of all that and it stays in the records.
So, what can we do about this anxiety?
The first thing we have to realize is that many guys use that feeling as an excuse for general anxiety. And for most of us, anxiety around women is the root cause we magnify into a bigger thing.
We try to medicate the anxiety with porn, masturbation, alcohol, and even drugs. But that’s not the solution.
In my case, I medicated that anxiety through alcohol. I only realized through my recovery that the anxiety I was medicating with in my early 20s was the same that I experienced when I was 16.
So, make no mistake, dealing with anxiety around women is tough – it might even be one of the toughest things you’ve ever done. And the reason for this is the very nature of the relationship between men and women and the inevitable rejection that will happen from time to time.
That’s why you’ll have to learn how to handle rejection and you’ll also need to understand how women think and respond to men.
Understanding these things is a crucial part of your masculinity and recovery. But here’s the critical thing:
You must understand that you can act in spite of your anxiety. And that’s your best chance to overcome it.
Do away with your denial, justifications, and excuses.
Accept your anxiety… and act despite it!