Many of the men in our Porn Reboot group are high-performance individuals. These men are high performers in a variety of ways, whether it’s in their professional career, the business they ruin, their fitness performance, or their marriage. The difference between a high-performance individual and everyone else is their ability to out-perform others their age.
I focus a lot on high-performance individuals because they make up a large portion of my group. They are successful in various areas of their lives because they’re determined and driven to do well. They’re men who refuse to settle for anything less than greatness.
This is why they arrive in the Porn Reboot group so confused and disheartened. They’re high performers in many other areas of their life but when it comes to their out of control behavior they have very little success on their own. Their compulsive behaviors hold them back from achieving their full potential.
Some men have the ability to be high performers but aren’t able to reach that level because of their behaviors. That’s not to say they can never become high-performance individuals. Until they learn to control their out of control behaviors, though, they’ll continue to come up short.
You might be one of these high performers and finding yourself at a loss. Or maybe your performance has suffered as a result of your masturbation and porn addiction. You’ve tried various ways of controlling your behavior but failed every time. How can you finally regain control over your compulsive behaviors and focus on becoming the best version of yourself?
That’s what I want to cover over the next few posts. These tips for high performers, or potential high performers, will get you on the right track to success.
First of all, mindset is the foundational aspect of success for high performing individuals. If you don’t have a strong mindset, your performance will suffer. No strategy is going to be effective if you can’t get a grip on your mind. What can you do to structure your mindset before implementing a strategy?
Notice Your Priorities
How do you speak to yourself about your sexual behavior? Pay attention to your thinking. These thoughts are going to guide the questions you ask and the things you tell yourself. For instance, many men tell me their reboot is the number one priority in their life. That’s what everybody says.
Now pay attention to whether your actions back that up or not. Have you truly made the necessary changes in your life to be successful? Do you put your reboot ahead of everything else in your life? Truth is, there’s probably at least one thing you’re prioritizing over your reboot if you’re a high-performance individual.
For example, do you think you can control your behaviors by going to meetings and seeing a therapist once a week? Can you really overcome a compulsive behavior that’s taken years to settle in with a few weekly engagements? Get honest with yourself.
If you want to quit your masturbation and porn addiction, you need to prioritize your reboot before anything else. It means getting up and doing your morning routine instead of sleeping in. It means going to the gym when you’d rather stay home and chill out. There are times when work engagements are going to arise and really put you to the test.
Shift From an “Either/Or” Mentality to an “And” Mentality
The biggest test of all is learning to shift from an “either/or” mentality to an “and” mentality. There comes a point in your recovery where you need to learn to balance your engagements with your reboot.
You can’t go the rest of your life skipping business trips and networking events because it puts your reboot at risk. But you also can’t put your business interests ahead of your reboot. It’s not an “either/or” situation, it’s an “and” situation. You need to learn how to maintain your reboot AND attend to your business responsibilities.
It’s a subtle shift in thinking but it’s an important one if you plan to be successful in your reboot. How can you shift from one to the other, though? I’m going to leave you with a reboot action step at the end of each of these high-performer strategy posts.
You need to ask yourself this question, “How can I have the best control over my sexual behavior in my life AND have the best year in business or my career at the same time?”
I want you to write this down. How can you have both of these things at the same time while understanding you need to devote a certain amount of time to your reboot.
The next question you need to ask yourself is, “What strategies do I need to learn to control my sexual behavior while building my business or career?”
The final question is, “Who do I admire that has discipline, success, and sexual control, and how can I model them?”
There are plenty of entrepreneurs, influencers, and celebrities open about their struggles with their sexual behaviors. Find one of these men who you look up to and write out the ways you can achieve their same level of success. What strategies will you use to get there? How can you adjust your mindset to be successful with those strategies?
Join us in the Porn Reboot Facebook group and let us know how you’re going to shift your mindset to align with a high-performance mindset. There’s a whole group of us working to become the best men we can be and we’d love to have you join us.