“Why am I constantly relapsing?”
Do you ever ask yourself this question? If you’ve tried the 90-day challenges, the NoFap challenges, the transformation challenges, you’ve likely relapsed time and time again. Why do you relapse, though? What causes you to go back to pornography even after you swear it’ll be the last time?
One of the biggest reasons you struggle with relapse is because you have a weak sense of belief in yourself. You don’t truly believe that you’re going to stay off pornography forever. Instead, you believe it’s only a matter of time before you give in again.
Now you might wonder how you developed this poor confidence in your ability to stay away from pornography. Where did this belief come from?
It’s very simple. The men who cannot develop this belief are the men who have not been practicing the skills that work during a reboot. There are a lot of coping tools and mechanisms provided as you work through the Porn Reboot system.
You’re not going to be great at them right away; though, because they’re skills. Skills take time to learn. You have to practice and implement them over time. Think about a professional NFL player. He’s not going to get out on the field thinking he can win if he hasn’t practiced the skills for his position. A UFC fighter won’t be confident for a fight if he hasn’t honed his skill.
Porn Reboot is no different. Are you applying yourself to practicing your skills? Do you do the work to identify certain patterns in your life? Are you learning how to manage your biochemistry? Do you learn from your previous slips? Are you trying to become better at identifying your emotions? Do you apply the things you learn daily?
If you can’t answer yes to all of these questions, you’re going to continue relapsing constantly. Overcoming your pornography addiction takes time, patience, and practice. You have to work and apply these skills into your daily life. As you hone your skills, you’ll gain confidence. As you gain confidence, you start believing in yourself.
Eventually, you get to the point where you truly believe you can stay off your compulsive behaviors forever.
It’s not about what other men say. It isn’t about what you read or listen to or watch. Sure, these things might motivate you. They make you feel good for a short period of time. But if they aren’t serving as inspirations for real-life practice, they aren’t doing anything at all. All they are is mental masturbation.
If it doesn’t motivate you to work harder at your practice, to understand the connection between practice and belief, you’re not going to make it.
If you’re courageous enough to admit that you struggle to believe in yourself then you have the ability to fully recover. That’s a great place to start. Start by practicing and we’re here to support you along the way.