Frequently Asked Questions

 


“I’ve known J.K. for less than year and he has taught me that I am capable of more than I realize. I am empowered in my recovery and confident that I can abstain from my compulsive habits for the long haul. I struggled when I first started following J.K. but haven’t acted out for the longest time thanks to the new habits I’ve built and the realization that I am not a slave to my over decade-long habits. If you COMMIT to recovery, J.K. will give you the tools to sustain your commitment. He understands your struggle because of his experience. He is very energetic and supportive as a coach. I thought it was impossible for me to stay “sober” but now I have hope. I was unaware that I had an emotional aspect to work on but am learning of its importance. I am rebuilding my social life with tools I was hesitant to adopt and never imagined I would be using. In the past several years, I’ve stumbled upon several resources addressing porn addiction and compulsive masturbation. Ultimately, J.K. has been the most influential in my recovery (and was the reason I even tried again to recover). I definitely recommend his coaching and products.”– Mack


 

 

Q: What can I expect on my first call?

Let me start by congratulating you on your decision to seek help in this area of your life- it takes quite a bit of courage to get to this point. You and I will get on a call and discuss the current challenges that you are dealing with in your life related to pornography and sex. It is an opportunity to find out if we are a good fit for working together.If it is, a recovery strategy will be outlined for you based on where you are in your current situation. We will schedule a regular meeting time and begin with your first recovery exercise or assignment

 

Q: Is this consultation free?

All sessions are paid for, however, the initial consultation is available at a discounted rate.

Q: I am ashamed of what I want to discuss!

It’s quite normal to feel reserved about disclosing an area of your life which you may have never shared with anyone. Part of the requirements of being a recovery coach is being non-judgmental. At Elevated Recovery, you will always be in a safe and private environment where you can open up about your challenges-perhaps for the first time ever. It takes time to build a relationship, but you will find that your level of comfort and trust will keep growing as time passes. There is no need to feel shame when you are in a safe, supportive environment.

 

Q: What is your cancellation policy?

Cancellations within 24 hours are allowed.I understand that emergencies come up. Due to the wait list, any cancellations or no shows for a scheduled call second time cannot be rescheduled.

“J.K has been a great help in discovering some of the roots of my addiction which I had struggled with for almost twenty years. His style is one of tough love( compassion and a focused program). Over the past year and a half, his approach to recovery has helped me tremendously.”  JT

Q: How long do I need Recovery Coaching?

Recovery varies according to each client. The challenges some clients face can be dealt with effectively in a very short amount of time ( 3 month at minimum or 12 calls/conversations).

Some clients may need more time depending on their situation. The best time to address this is during the first coaching conversation where we can outline your specific challenges, goals, and vision for your future as well as a strategic recovery plan.

Typically, a minimum of three months of recovery coaching has been observed to provide the most progress for many clients.  If you have more questions about the length of recovery coaching, feel free to bring them up during our first call.

 

Q: My career involves me traveling, being on call with unpredictable hours, or frequently in different locations internationally. How would you work with me?

A majority of my coaching sessions are held over the phone or on Skype, so scheduling a rarely an issue. Elevated Recovery is known for its flexible accountability hours.That means whether you are in New York, Melbourne, Cape Town or Tokyo, you can rest assured that we will be able to have your session.

 

Q: I am a high profile individual. My face is well known due to my career in politics, entertainment, sports or related areas. What is your approach to confidentiality and high profile clients?

Recovery Coaching is strictly confidential.I take your privacy and boundaries very seriously. Regardless of your status, reputation, or fame, you will always have your sessions in an atmosphere of trust. Some high-profile individuals prefer to avoid technology while working on themselves. If you prefer more discreet sessions, I offer “house calls” and multi-day in-person sessions on a limited basis. Every client deserves to experience recovery with the maximum amount of safety and trust.

 

Q: Is “porn addiction” or “sex addiction” real?

It should be noted that while neither “porn addiction” or “sex addiction” is not clinical diagnoses, both terms have become very common in our culture. Regardless of the labels surrounding these issues, clients who work with me are experiencing real and destructive consequences in life due to their inability to regain control of their sexual life. Some of these consequences include: losing relationships, large amounts of time lost to pornography and sexual fantasies, desensitization to regular sex, development of fetishes and “taboo” sexual preferences which the client is uncomfortable with, risking their career and academics, deep feelings of shame and self-hate, legal issues and much more.

Q: What is the difference between a recovery coach and a therapist?

The work that we will be doing together is that of a professional consulting/coaching/client relationship which is differs from psychotherapy services.

Consulting/Coaching often deals with (but is not limited to):

  • A person’s future and often utilizes tools such as accountability, goal setting, executing a vision, personal development, educational goals, collaborative action steps, outcome goals, and motivational work.Recovery coaching is very proactive, being solution and action oriented.

Psychotherapy often deals with (but is not limited to):

  • An individual’s current psychological stress that may stem from difficult early years experience, trauma and/or attachment disorders and/or addiction issues. Therapy often involves examining thought processes and interpersonal relationships and other psychological challenges that may negatively interfere with a person’s day-to-day psychological functioning.

To illustrate, if a client has persistent negative self-belief, a therapist would focus on finding out the root cause and origin of the negative self-belief using a medical method they are trained in. A recovery coach would treat the negative self-belief as an obstacle in the way of the primary goal ( recovery from porn addiction), and work with the client to develop a method of overcoming the negative belief.

A therapist focuses on healing and understanding. A recovery coach focuses on evolving and reaching your potential.

“I spent most of my life trying to beat this addiction on my own. Countless relapses and bad decisions later, I was done. I am so happy I somehow found the courage to enroll in the 3-month program. J.K has done something remarkable. He has created something that works for people from all walks of life. The biggest lesson I learned was WHY I was a porn addict. I then understood my shame. I was given beliefs and more importantly- tools to help me live a healthy and clean life. I am so grateful for my experience with Elevated Recovery and J.K. It’s been a while since I felt so optimistic about my future.” -F.G

Q: How do I determine if you are the right recovery coach for me?

Working with a recovery coach who you can communicate with easily and trust is important. I recommend that you take your time while seeking out a coach. A few questions to ask are:

  • Are they an expert in their area of specialization?
  • Do you have considerable experience in the field of coaching
  • Is your approach currently producing results for your clients?
  • Do you have direct experience dealing with the challenge you are coaching clients through?

You can learn more about me and my experiences at the About Me page.  For clients interested in working with Elevated Recovery, we typically have a wait list and recommend that we meet for a first session to discuss your current challenges and to see if it feels like a good fit for both of us. If so, then we welcome the opportunity to support your healing journey. If not, then I am happy to provide you with referrals that you can explore as other options.

Q: What is your style of recovery coaching?

The style at Elevated Recovery is focused on providing support, motivation, and accountability. focused on helping clients build and maintain areas of their life they might be lacking in. You are supported in building up your social, environmental, emotional, health and spiritual areas of your life. To be fully recovered, there is one thing you have to regain- your SELF.

I’m a no B.S sort of coach. My style is compassionate, yet straight to the point. If you have spent many years of your life stuck in erroneous thinking, it is my role to help you discover those aspects your life that have been enabling your challenges. You will also be kept accountable, trained in self-accountability, taught how to set and devise plans for reaching your goals and constantly encouraged to reach higher heights.

I want every client to benefit as much as they can from their time with me and believe that this is hope and life after the struggle with pornography and sex.

Q: What other experience does J.K have?

J.K’s pre-coaching professional background includes the Executive Director of an International internship company. He has also managed multiple Business to Customer sales organizations as a sales manager and sales trainer for over a decade.

Additionally, I am currently a Certified Life Coach through the World Coach Institute and completing certification as  a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach (CAC) 

I am also undergoing training under Dr Dawn-Elise Snipes for certification as a Sex and Pornography Addiction Counselor (SPARC). In early 2018, I am slated to begin two more certifications in the field of Pornography ,Sex Addiction, and  Trauma Recovery Counseling

My articles on porn and sex addiction have been published on Fight the New Drug, Order of Man, Your Tango, Elephant Journal and many more publications.