April 7, 2020

Are you ready to quit using porn – for good? If so, the tips and information found here will help. You must keep in mind there is no magic solution that works for everyone. What someone finds effective may not work for others. While this is true, the tips found here will help to put you in the mindset of quitting this habit and getting back to life. 

Don’t Give Porn Any Power 

For many who are trying to quit, it is common for them to equate porn to a dark monster, war, pandemic, or plague that they must fight every step of the way else they will succumb to it. However, this mindset isn’t very helpful. 

It’s this type of self-talk that may actually backfire in the long run. There is research that suggests the reason this type of rhetoric is what caused the D.A.R.E. program to fail in the 1980s and 1990s, which was focused on reducing drug use among high school teens. There was a study that showed when compared to middle schoolers who did not participate in this program, and drug use was up among those who did. 

One of the most powerful things that can help someone effectively quite porn is just to understand how it affects the brain and what makes it so appealing. Rather than seeming like an unstoppable, menacing, or mysterious force, the addiction a person has to porn is driven as something natural and normal that’s been hijacked by a supernormal reproductive and an evolutionary reinforcer. 

Once a person understands the science between the use of porn, a person can see what it truly is: sexual junk food. If someone wants to stop eating chips, they learn the bad ways that chips affect the body and take actionable steps to stop buying these and bringing them into the home. 

Accept That You Look at Porn but Want to Stop Looking

Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” This is true. Cognitive psychology has shown time and time again that your behavior shapes the way you feel and think. Action is what shapes who you are. 

If you look at porn often, you must accept the fact you do this. It may be hard to accept, but just looking at this as an addiction makes the problem even more difficult to overcome because you give yourself an external locus of control.

Accept and Quit 

Remember, though, acceptance and resignation aren’t the same thing. Now that you have accepted it, you can begin making proactive changes. 

If you want to become a guy who doesn’t look at porn, you must start acting like that guy. This is a fake it until you make it situation. 

There is also outside help that you can seek. Someone to help you overcome this situation can be invaluable, so investigate the options that are in your local area. With the right support and guidance, you can overcome your porn addiction once and for all.