Porn addiction isn’t the same for everyone.
In fact, it can be particularly tough for a specific group of men.
I’m talking about professionals who are in a relationship.
Why?
It’s because the cost of their porn, masturbation, or sex addiction could be quite high. They have something to lose.
And what usually happens with these men is that they invest heavily in building a delusion.
They can use many techniques to deny that they have a problem. In fact, they can even ignore the consequences of their behavior, like losing their job or relationship.
Sounds familiar?
In this post, I want to talk about the 10 excuses that such men make regarding their behavior with pornography or sex:
- I’m under stress, so I deserve this.
- The only one who knows about this is me.
- Men need more sex than women.
- What my partner doesn’t know can’t hurt her.
- I have a high sex drive.
- I get very sexually frustrated if I don’t watch porn or masturbate.
- My wife or girlfriend isn’t always in the mood when I want sex.
- My partner’s not into the stuff I like.
- Porn is just acting. Watching it doesn’t hurt anyone.
- At least I’m not really having sex with someone else. I’m just watching pornography.
What do all of these excuses have in common?
They’re all lies you’re telling yourself. In fact, most of these statements are blatantly false.
For example, your partner will always find out that you have a problem. You won’t be the only one who knows forever.
Also, pornography does hurt people. It encourages sex trafficking, hurts your partner, and is definitely hurting you.
Even if your excuse is a scientific fact, you need to understand that your addiction has nothing to do with facts. Your behavior is out of control and you’re using it to medicate some sort of pain.
All of these things that you’re telling yourself are your justifications for a serious problem.
So, how can you break out of that cycle of self-deception?
You can do that and start recovering by finding the right support.
