Sometimes I look at the Porn Reboot system as a game.

Before I dive too far into this analogy, I want to preface this by saying that I’m not a big sports fan. I’m warning you now because some of my examples might not make sense to the die-hard sports fans in our group. Cut me some slack because I think that overall it’s a good comparison.

When you’re part of the Porn Reboot group and using the system in your life, you’re part of the game. Every day that you wake up, you have a new opportunity to play the game and stack up wins. I get to function as a coach here in the group and I will never quit on you so long as you never quit on yourself. As long as you’re in the game I’ll be here alongside you.

You might lose a game here and there. Maybe you lose a few in a row. But as long as you stick in the middle and keep playing the game, you can always come back with a win or two or ten. I’m never going to quit on you no matter how many losses you have, as long as you stay in the game and keep playing. And as I’ve coached hundreds of men over the years, I’ve noticed four types of people involved in the Porn Reboot game. 

The Critic

The critic is the guy who throws shade from the stands. He always disagrees with whatever is going on. He’s yelling at the players, arguing with the referees, and complaining about one thing or another the whole time. But he’s never actually in the game.

When it comes to rebooting, these are the guys who judge others on their reboot. He insists men who struggle with porn are losers who can’t get laid or are dealing with deep-seated religious guilt. He doesn’t believe porn addiction is a real problem and that men who can’t control it are weak-willed.

He watches as you improve your life in all areas, from your marriage to your diet to your fitness to your finances. As you separate yourself from your old behaviors, he’s always on the sidelines trying to drag you down.

Meanwhile, the critic often has his own out-of-control behaviors with pornography but he’s in denial and convinced he doesn’t have a real problem. He’s too afraid to make moves of his own so he’ll tear you down for yours instead. He hides behind passive aggression and a victim mentality to avoid looking at his issues.

The Cheerleader

The cheerleader is your all-around good guy. He’s always encouraging other players on the field and rooting for them to win. He wants the best for the people around him and he’s a great guy to know. Similar to the critic, though, he’s not on the field himself. He’s a lot more enjoyable to be around but he’s still not in the game.

This is the guy who pushes you to do your best but doesn’t carry the same enthusiasm for himself. He isn’t able to internalize the positivity he has for others and use it to believe in himself. He’s the guy who tells himself he isn’t smart or talented enough, or that he’s too much for people.

His self-doubt keeps him on the sidelines the entire game. Even though he’s a positive, fun guy to be around, he wastes his own life watching others go after what he’s too scared to try. While he’s terrified of putting himself out there, there are plenty of guys who aren’t as smart or talented as he is who succeed because they’re at least willing to try.

The Competitor

The competitor is the guy who’s a fan of the underdog, rags-to-riches stories. He loves all of the motivational videos, inspirational speeches, and uplifting books that outline the pathway others used to find success. He gets into the game himself and gets knocked down into the dirt, but he also gets back up every single time.

Unlike the critic and the cheerleader, the competitor has skin in the game. He’s made his way from the sidelines onto the field. But there’s still a drawback to being this type of player.

The problem with the competitor is he’s inspired by the fight against adversity. He’s hooked on the motivation he gets from overcoming obstacles. Since the setbacks are what keep him striving, he’ll never truly overcome them. He doesn’t know how to succeed without finding something blocking him first.

There’s nothing wrong with fighting adversity but deriving your motivation from it is a dangerous place to be. These players usually have everything it takes to rewire their brain but they’re missing the final piece of the puzzle. They’ll stay stuck in the competitor role until they escape the underdog mindset and sit down in the driver’s seat of their life.

The Champion

The champion is the real winner of the game. This is the type of player in the Porn Reboot game that you ultimately want to be. He’s the man who comes out on top and overcomes his out-of-control behavior. 

Every champion starts as a competitor at some point but not all champions overcome their adversity mindset. Those who focus on adversity stay stuck; those who focus on winning become champions.

Too many people end up trapped in the victim mentality and the vicious cycle of always overcoming adversity. They’re so focused on the grind and the hustle but never set out a timeline or establish an end goal. They have no picture of what it looks like once they win so they aren’t sure how to make the shift.

There are plenty of gurus online who build their business on the story of overcoming adversity. They have an appealing underdog vibe to them but those programs only build competitors who stay stuck in the cycle.

The Porn Reboot system builds champions. Ultimately you’re not supposed to stay around with us for years. You’re here to overcome your out-of-control behavior, build new habits, and move on with your life. You don’t need to be with us beyond the two-year mark. You’re a champion. You rebuild your life, establish your reboot capital, and continue moving forward. 

Which Type of Player Are You?

So the question I have for you, brother, is which player are you? Which role do you occupy?

I often find that men start as critics. It’s the easiest player to be, after all. But I also find they make their way through each role as they progress through their reboot. They start as cynical critics, move into being encouraging cheerleaders, start fighting back as competitors, then finally discover they have what it takes to be a champion.

And that’s exactly what the Porn Reboot system does. It’s built to help you do just that. Our group is filled with men leveling up in the world and becoming the champions they’ve always been capable of becoming. 

We want you to become a champion in your life, to take back control of your out-of-control behaviors. So what are you waiting for?