This is the second part of a two-part series on overcoming unwanted fantasies. You can find the other part here.
This series is for men still struggling to overcome their out-of-control behaviors. It’s for men who continue watching or engaging with unwanted fantasies no matter how badly they want to stop. If you’re stuck in a cycle of relapses and can’t seem to escape, these techniques to overcome unwanted fantasies is for you.
Overcoming fantasies that don’t serve you is crucial. You can’t build healthy sexual behaviors when you’re still trapped in old practices. Are you still engaging in fantasies that leave you feeling disgusted with yourself when you’re through? Do you feel self-loathing for having this fantasy but find it impossible to stop?
Last week I covered using masturbation as a technique for leaving these unwanted fantasies behind.
This week I’m going to show you how to use verbalization.
How to Use Verbalization to Overcome Unwanted Fantasies
Many men struggle with unwanted fantasies when they first discover the Porn Reboot program. They’re still jerking off to things they swore they’d never watch again. These are likely things you wouldn’t admit to watching to anyone else outside your reboot support system.
As long as you’re watching or fantasizing about these things, you can’t move forward in your reboot. Verbalization is a great tool you can use to move past the sticking point. There are a few simple steps you can take to practice this technique.
Find a place you can be alone for some time because you want to make sure no one can hear you while you’re doing this. You need to speak out loud for an extended time so find somewhere you can have some privacy.
Next, set a timer for 10 minutes. You can use your watch, a clock, your phone. It doesn’t matter what you use, just make sure you give yourself 10 uninterrupted minutes. After you set the timer, I want you to verbalize the entire fantasy in detail.
Yes, verbalize it. I want you to speak about it out loud.
You’re going to open your mouth and talk about what happens in this fantasy step by step. Explain the specifics with you being one of the participants. Don’t give in to the temptation to stop early, either. Continue verbally explaining every detail of this fantasy until your timer goes off.
At this point, you’ll probably feel very uncomfortable. You’re going to experience a host of negative emotions. It’s not going to feel as exciting when you actively explain your fantasy in detail instead of simply watching it on a screen.
Now I want you to spend a few minutes thinking about an alternative fantasy that you’re comfortable with. If you’re in a relationship, call to mind a fantasy that involves your partner. Single men can recall a healthy, intimate sexual encounter with a previous partner.
This healthy fantasy will sound much more appealing after immediately explaining your unwanted fantasy. Something that might have felt tame at first now feels much more enticing once you’ve verbalized a fantasy that leaves you feeling disgusted.
It might take a few tries to get this to work. Again, arousal is not the goal here. Your goal is to replace your unwanted fantasy with this healthy, desirable fantasy. Verbalization is a safer approach than the masturbation technique so start here. If you find this doesn’t help after some time, though, trying the masturbation technique may make a difference.
Ultimately, though, lasting recovery from porn addiction only comes after you commit to making serious changes. You can move forward once you decide to incorporate the porn reboot system into your life.
There are hundreds of videos on my YouTube channel that detail plenty of the system for you free of charge. As soon as you’re ready to make a change, the Porn Reboot program is here for you – all you need to do is make the decision and commit.
Are you ready?
