When I was trying to end my porn habit, I always assumed that my success relied on a combination of factors.
Namely willpower, self-discipline, spiritual faith, and having large goals.
It took me quite some time to discover that this wasn’t enough. I was missing one crucial thing, and that’s what I want to tell you about today.
But first, let me tell you how my initial efforts ended up.
Moving from the starting point of willpower, self-discipline, faith, and goals, I tried everything. I wanted to get out of porn so badly and I was scared of becoming stuck in that messed up life of mine.
Here’s the thing…
On their own, all of the factors produced some results, but not anything lasting.
Willpower would get me through the first 30 days, after which I’d end up sexually frustrated, edging or touching myself, and eventually masturbating.
Self-discipline was better in the sense that becoming super-focused on my career made sure I was simply too busy to masturbate. Unfortunately, I didn’t know how to sustain it and make it a part of my lifestyle.
It was pretty much the same with other individual factors. My porn addiction ran so deep that there would always come a time when I gave into it.
The breakthrough came when I discovered that missing ingredient…
Accountability.
This is the thing every man who’s been trying to quit porn for years misses in his recovery toolkit. And we miss it because we’re, well, men.
We think we’re so damn capable of ending our porn addiction on our own that we try it for decades without thinking about reaching out.
In fact, some of us might not even know what accountability means.
Well, to clear that out, accountability is the obligation to accept responsibility for our actions and disclose the results transparently.
It consists of three parts that are all self-explanatory:
Visibility, clarity, and activity.
Accountability is what prevents minor problems from becoming bigger. And it’s the best opportunity and just the tool you need to finally become free from your porn addiction.
