What Happens After Rebooting?
I was at the Vatican in Rome last week.
For anyone who hasn’t been-aside from being a country and the seat of the Catholic faith, it’s a massive tourist destination.
I was impressed by the sheer size, attention to detail, and beauty of the art, especially the repeated theme of sainthood and what humans will do when they believe in an afterlife.
As a former Catholic, it got me thinking about
“What happens after death?”
In the Catholic faith, when you die, you either go to:
Heaven: If you lived a pure and good life
Hell: If you lived and died in mortal sin
Purgatory: An in-between state for those who are not perfect in purity, where your soul is cleansed of imperfections to prepare you for heaven.
Regardless of how this sounds to you, it is certainly interesting that humans are the only creatures that have a concept of an “end”.
To other living things, the end of life is simply a fact.
To humans, it is something we dedicate our entire lives to making sense of or preparing for.
We are so afraid of the unknown that we create the next “beginning” – the “afterlife”, heaven, hell, purgatory, or reincarnation to alleviate that fear.
Thus, “ Endings” are of particular importance to us because they signify in our mind a new “beginning” and, of course, a beginning should be “good” or “better”.
But what if there was nothing at the end?
I pondered this…and came to a conclusion.
If there was nothing at the end, then all that matters is NOW.
And if all that matters is NOW, then we owe it to ourselves to make the NOW of our lives and the future (someone else’s NOW) as amazing as possible.
I was having a conversation with an Intensive program client this past weekend.
He was starting to spend a lot of time “doomscrolling” on social media at night after his wife went to bed.
He was concerned and wanted some advice on curbing this compulsive scrolling.
My response was not to give any tips or tricks.
It’s my last year of group coaching- we don’t have time for tips.
I instead pointed to the bigger issue.
His lack of a mission. I consider a mission to be anything that makes another person or group of persons’ future NOW better.
Not a Purpose- which is a luxury, but a Mission- something specific, targeted, and large enough to span several decades.
Porn is an escape from the beauty of the NOW. A perversion of reality.
It’s saying, “My current existence is horrible- I must have something better”
It also infects your future. So your next NOW will be painful, empty, and hollow.
A mission can only happen through full appreciation of the NOW.
Your NOW is so amazing that you want to share it with others.
You acknowledge everything that has contributed to it and want to make sure future generations and your loved ones also enjoy this limited, uncertain ending experience.
Any man over the age of 30 who does not lock in a Mission of some sort is likely f*cked.
I noticed over the years that as men reach the Late and Maintenance Stage of their Reboot, those who do not find a Purpose or Mission usually end up with some other sort of normie behavior, which keeps them stuck in the past or future.
Or they keep watching porn – albeit much less than when they first joined the program.
Why is this?
It’s simple.
The Porn Reboot System was never designed for normal men.
Normal men WANT to ignore the now and what it means
If your desire was to quit porn and go back to playing video games, being fat, fighting with your wife in your sexless marriage, hating your job, and living in your shitty town… then you followed the wrong system.
It’s Porn REBOOT.
Not Porn RECOVERY.
It’s hitting the reset button on your IDENTITY.
Not recovering the remnant of your crappy pre-porn life.
You were probably destined for mediocrity anyway.
Ending your porn addiction would simply have temporarily cleared the path to a SUPER average life.
What’s wrong with average?
Everything in today’s America.
The average man making the average wage cannot afford to pay his bills, invest, build an emergency fund AND go on vacation.
The average man will feel the PAIN of the average American.
The high performing, above average, Type A man is not affected by average problems.
It’s not complicated.
A Mission greater than yourself will catapult you through the last stages of your Reboot into a life of perpetual transformation.
This works because it is ordained by God, by Nature, by the Universe.
We are designed to evolve.
To transform.
To grow.
To become better humans, improve our society, reach higher levels of consciousness, and transcend our violent, greedy, egotistic, animal selves.
RECOVERY does not get you there.
RECOVERY only encourages one mission – the mission of bringing more people into recovery.
And the moment many people do something, it becomes… Average.
REBOOTING is about transformation.
REBOOTING encourages you to define your Mission for yourself. It encourages you to grow beyond the system and become a man capable of creating his OWN system, his own philosophy, his own path.
That’s why it’s for the few.
Many of the men in the Intensive program have started building mission-driven businesses on the side.
In fact, so many are doing so that the next stage of my evolution is serving these men on their journey.
This happens because Rebooting forces you to confront your potential.
What you are truly capable of and what you WANT.
When you can overcome porn addiction, you realize you can do anything. Porn was never the problem- just the symptom of some unresolved issue.
And once that issue is resolved, nothing stops you from becoming the man you are destined to be.
For most men, Autonomy, Freewill, Critical Thinking and Happiness are KEY to
Who they can be.
And what screams Autonomy, Freewill, Critical Thinking and Happiness like running your own Mission Driven business?
I know, I know… from pondering the afterlife to capitalism.
Build a business not for what it brings you- but for the man you will have to become in the process.
Your Mission doesn’t have to be a business of course. It may be a non profit, a movement, a church , or something beyond the scope of our current imagination.
So what happens after Rebooting?
You transform your identity.
You develop a Purpose or Mission.
You stop repressing your talent and true self due to the shame of porn and start expressing your God given abilities to the world 
If you are in your twenties or thirties and want a taste of this next level- it’s here – in a program called Twenties Mentor.
And in January 2026, when I officially transition out of coaching, I will announce the next level of evolution of the Porn Reboot System.
What Happens After Rebooting? Read More »
